Life's lessons learnt

So I believe that every day is a new day and we get to learn new things, be it a new word, a new phrase, a new trick, a new way to do something, something new about you as a person, or something new about a person in your life:)

Life they say is a journey, not a destination and as we go along on this incredible journey that really has no roadmaps, and has hidden surprises round every bend some good, some let's say not welcome. Don't you find that just when you get comfortable, think you have a sense of direction, have your goodies for the journey and have your goal - bump - ooops a speed need to adjust the travel plans a bit.

Along the way you pick some fellow travelers and we may not know it then but they are all there for a reason - maybe to point you in the right direction or maybe the wrong, some there to let u know what your strengths are, some that make you rethink your destination, some to create joy and some sorrow.We may think we have a choice but really we do not. It is all determined by the great wire puller. We need to recognise the signs or we get lost and confused. 

As we go through this incredible journey we call life, I think it is extremely important to keep an open mind and heart, to welcome change, to be willing to learn, to experiment, to explore, to taste, yup sometimes even detours - who knows maybe u will find your paradise there? Or your oasis which you would not have if you decided to stay on the path and yup you can also get lost and end up where you don't want to.... it is all a matter of taking a chance.

As they say you never know till you try it:) Life has so many flavors, so many varieties, so many colors, so many choices, so many options but we limit ourselves with this self imposed restrictions because we do not think it is the right thing to do. And we may possibly miss out on some incredible experiences or scenic views as we continue on our safe path.

Life is short and unpredictable, full of challenges, happiness and sorrow, good and bad so while on the road of life - put the top down - of your car, feel the wind in your hair, the drops of rain on your face, the smell of fresh mown grass, smell of wet earth, belt up and get ready for the unexpected and have an adventure!

Here's to lots of laughter, giggles, snuggles, joy and fun - Let your inner child out Run free and have a tumble or two....Cheers... :)

choices...this or that??

Life is full of choices:) 
Do you or don't you, will you or won't you, should you or shouldn't you, could you or couldn't you, yes or no etc... and then once you do take that leap and do make a choice then starts another set of choices - what ifs or maybes:)

Sometimes I wonder what would life have been without choices? Dull n drab? Monotonous, boring, one dimensional, quicker, simpler or just plain vanilla?

Someone truly said "Variety is the spice of life" If there was no choice, then I would still be eating white bread and not tasted chocolate croissants stuffed with almonds, would be drinking plain old chai, instead of chai au lait, or drinking regular coffee with regular milk, instead of rich dark roast columbian coffee with irish creme:) I could go on and on - again my choice - but I choose.....

Life is short and unpredictable, there are a lot of things to see and experience, lot of things to do, lot of things, emotions waiting for you - good n bad - Let us not waste it by bickering, complaining. Let us put our pride, our egos, our pre conceived notions aside n embrace life - but again u have a choice - to do or not....

Great Expectations!

Great or small propel a lot of our actions. Rarely is an action taken without expecting something at the end of it. One gives with, yes, the expectation, of receiving something at the end of it. When one does not receive what one expects it strains the relationship, it mars our outlook,makes us resentful.....

Is it possible to give without expecting something in return? I think once a person stops expecting anything, that person can find contentment. Mmmmm... but I was expecting ... Ah hah there you are. I did this because I was expecting that you would......

It seems we spend our lives living upto others expectation of us or rather what we perceive as their expectation of us. No wonder we are messed up - because dont you think it is but impossible to meet everyone's expectation? I for one, will first try to live upto my expectations and then......

MOOD: shocked fer what i didnt expect!

rollercoaster called LIFE...

Life is like a roller cooaster
Ups and downs
Twists and turns
sudden drops to bottom
lifting u to dizzying heights
only to drop into a free fall

I have always been nervous
about rollercoaster
worried about the twists n turns
apprehensive and yes scared.

Deep inside I know all
I have to do is get into one n
face my fears, I know
I need to be able to step out of my comfort zone
I did take a small step in
a small rollercoaster

One step at a time I can do it
I will
I have to
Only hope it is going to be worth it...

thinking with the heart, not head.. is it the right one??

Desire, lust, excitement, nervousness, frustration etc. etc. etc...all come under the seemingly innocuous word "Emotions"...

Well, emotions govern our lives... It motivates us, depresses us, makes us impulsive and in many ways defines us as a person... I think people who can control their emotions live better lives than someone like me who is a bit emotional doormat.. 

Hmmmm so who exactly is an emotional doormat?? (I coined the phrase btw..haha) Well someone who thinks with her heart, not head, someone who naively still believes in the fact, that people are what they say they are, no hidden agendas because after all...why would one make life more complicated than it already is? Someone who genuinely cares about people, is empathetic and yup, a little sensitive... Yeah, yeah..i can say, that is me and now you know why I am confused and bewildered....

I feel like I am an anamoly, I am positive, extrovert, generally happy, motivated, yet sensitive, extremely emotional, get hurt easily but always trying to cover it up, impulsive oh well...

Emotions - We need to be able to control it and not let it control us. Profound, huh :)

i wanna.....

I wanna
walk without stumblin
run without trippin
get out of the chair without fallin
dance without tumblin

I wanna
cook for my babies without stumblin
drive them to activities without crashin
play with them without trippin
read to them without fumblin

I wanna
be able to skip down the stairs
hike treacherous trails
dance with gay abandon
do things at random

I wanna
be busy runnin
doin things without thinkin
creatin, visualisin, makin
all the little things that make up
the intricate nuances called LIFE



yea...i cant deny dis's easy to say that u love someone..L.O.V.E..such a simple word isn't it?but u can never imagine how challenging the path u r goin through once u said it to someone..someone u prove da takes a life many things u have to learn and experience, so many things u have to change and sacrifice in ur life, so many things u have to do for it..but i do believe dat all r worth if u do have da LOVE...n yea..i promise to myself..i am going to prove it to 'someone' eventhough it may takes a lifetime...:)

Hearing something that
 kills u inside and having to 
act like u are fine is 
one of the bravest thing in 
the world...

right now is never da same as before.....

I’m changing, evolving depending on 

time and situation

if u hate it, turn away & back off! go 

away from my life and act like u never

 existed...! i dont mind & i dont even

 care...this is my life!


i just had a talk with my friends bout something.. and i feel so guilty right now.. i didnt mean to treat you badly.. and i have no intention to do that.. and seriously i have no idea what to do right now.. i feel like im a bad person by treating you like that. i feel so guilty right now.. :( i thought i wanna ask you whether you're okayh or not.. but im afraid that you'll do the same thing like you did to me last time.. and yea, i have to be fair to you and everyone.. and i have to treat you nice like i treat others. i should not have any boundaries to do like that.. im SORRY.. -.- i hope that, you'll read this.. when i talked to my friends bout this, i felt like crying cuz im so BAD like HELL.. huhu.. i just dun know what i want.. im confused. and im afraid that you'll fulfill your promises to me.. but i dun know. -.- ouh god.. please help me bout this.. i dun want to be a gurl thats full of questions that cant be answered. i just hope that this prob will be settled nicely..

p/s: dear me....:(

important person named " friend "

Friends - a meeting of minds, heart and soul, a connect, a rapport, an understanding, an instant connection, shared giggles, fall back when you need a shoulder to lay your weary head, someone who takes you for who you are and loves u unconditionally all of your goofy crazy self.
You meet so many people over the span of your lifetime... not everyone becomes your buddy, there are only a few with whom the connections is total and complete, there are some that are connected but not fully and then there are aquaintances.
You can be friends even if you have not met the person physically, or even spoken to! In the age of social networking we have a whole new way of making friends.....
Again some manage to get close to your heart and become your best buddies where they understand you and your moods and are there for you. Friends who motivate you, love you, inspire you only through their written words and love in their heart and true genuine friendship in their hearts.
A friend is someone who smiles when you do, commiserates when you are sad, tells you the truth even if u do not want to hear it, holds out a hand when you fall, through the good times and bad times will be there, will be ur rock.
This particular note is for all my friends who have enriched my lives with your love, support and motivation. I hope I am also that friend for you.

painful things about love...

here are few painful things that may or had happened in our lifes...

1) bringing back the feeling you've learned to forget
2) reminiscing the good times
3) trying to hide what u really feel
4) loving someone who loves another
5) having a commitment with someone u know would not last
6) shielding ur heart to love somebody
7) loving a person too much
8) right love at the wrong time
9) taking risk to fall in love again
10) accepting that it was never meant to be
11) "what ifs"

hope that all of this will never ever happen in our lifes...amin~